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Why Your Trustee Needs Clear Written Instructions

Beyond the Trust: Why Your Trustee Needs Clear Written Instructions

When you sit down with an estate planning attorney to create a trust, the goal is usually to protect your assets and provide for your loved ones long after you’re gone. However, many people are surprised to find that the legal language in a trust is often intentionally broad and vague.

While the legal structure gives your trustee the authority to manage your money, it often lacks the context they need to make the right decisions. Without one specific, easy step—clear written instructions—your trustee is left to their own devices, guessing what you would have wanted.

The Problem with Professional “Vagueness”

Trusts are often drafted with broad language to give the document longevity. Life changes, laws evolve, and financial markets shift. By giving a trustee wide discretion, the trust remains flexible enough to handle those changes without needing constant legal amendments.

However, this flexibility is a double-edged sword. If the trust simply says the trustee can distribute funds for the “health, education, and maintenance” of a beneficiary, what does that actually look like?

  • Does “education” mean any state school, or are you hoping for an Ivy League path?
  • Does “maintenance” include a modest apartment or a down payment on a first home?
  • Should the trustee prioritize saving the principal, or are they encouraged to spend more for life-changing experiences like travel?

Without guidance, your trustee is forced to interpret your intent. This can lead to family friction, legal challenges, or a legacy that doesn’t reflect your true values.

Shaping Discretion with a “Letter of Wishes”

The solution is to provide a supplemental document—often called a Letter of Wishes or Written Instructions. This document doesn’t replace the legal trust; instead, it informs how the trustee should use their power.

By providing clear written instructions, you get the best of both worlds: robust legal authority combined with personal guidance. Here are a few things you can clarify in your instructions:

  • Educational Preferences: Specify whether you want to prioritize private institutions, vocational training, or graduate degrees.
  • Major Life Milestones: Provide instructions on how much should be contributed toward a wedding, a first home, or starting a business.
  • Lifestyle and Values: If travel, recreation, or charity were important to you, you can instruct your trustee to prioritize those experiences for your beneficiaries.
  • Spending Limits: You can suggest how much should be distributed annually relative to what the beneficiary is already earning on their own.

Take Control of Your Legacy

A well-developed estate plan is more than just a set of legal “dos and don’ts.” It is a roadmap for your family’s future. By taking the extra step to provide clear, written context, you ensure that your trustee doesn’t just manage your money—they honor your vision.

Don’t leave your legacy to chance or someone else’s interpretation. If you are ready to create a comprehensive plan that protects your assets and provides clear direction for your loved ones, we are here to help.

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Author Bio

James P. Kelly, ESQ

Paul Yokabitus
Founder & Estate Planning Lawyer

Paul Yokabitus is the founder of Cary Estate Planning, where he helps North Carolina families protect what matters most through wills, trusts, probate, and special needs planning. Known for his “planning, not paperwork” approach, Paul turns complex legal concepts into clear, practical strategies so clients feel informed and confident at every step. He has been recognized as a Business North Carolina Legal Elite attorney and a Super Lawyers Rising Star, and was named to the Triangle Business Journal’s 40 Under 40. A graduate of Campbell University School of Law, Paul lives in the Triangle with his wife, Alix, and their two sons.

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